It’s not your fault you feel this way… stuck …not completely any way. It’s more a result of society.

You see, everyone starts out with an idea of having a successful career or starting a successful business.

“Go to college and get a job” they said pushing the idea of putting in your time, doing a good job, getting promoted and life will be grand.

It doesn’t take long before you get bored or antsy or you just want a new and better experience. You keep looking for the next step in your career that will carry you ever higher.

But now you find yourself married with a couple kids (or more), a mortgage and a car payment or two. Maybe you’re still making payments on college debt.

You’re not near as ‘successful’ as you thought you’d be and you can’t even see that your original dream can even happen.

You’ve got pressures at work and at home and you’re one major expense away from it all falling apart and you don’t know what to do.

You’re stuck and you want it to change but you can’t even figure out how you got here.

Here are 3 reasons you may be feeling stuck in life.

1. Comparing yourself to others

You know it as ‘keeping up with the Jones’. It’s hard to not compare ourselves, our possessions, our careers, our homes and cars to others around us. It is probably one of the biggest factors in the accumulation of debt and arguments in marriage. When you compare yourself to other people it will only make you feel depressed.

Focus instead on your goals and dreams. Where is it you want to be and what is it you want to accomplish? Make your plan and work your plan not your neighbor’s plan.

2. Settling for being stuck

Change is hard and uncomfortable. It’s easier to be stuck in a life of mediocrity and stress day after day, year after year because it’s easier than making a change. You feel stuck with your mortgage, car payments and credit card debts and you just accept it as the way it’s supposed be in life. And why not? All your friends are in the same boat.

Settling for the life you do have is ignoring the life you can have. What was the dream or expectation you had years ago when you first started your career or graduated from college? Is it still something you want? Don’t run from it, don’t settle for the way things are, take some time and figure out what you really want for your children, your wife, your career and your future.

3. You don’t have any goals or dreams

Okay, maybe you think your life is a nightmare. The problem is, you have fallen for the lie of society that wants to keep you down and living a settled life like everyone else. Most people are either jealous or angry when someone they know breaks out of being stuck and actually achieves the goals they have in their life. The typical response is, “Well they certainly got lucky!” There’s a little bit of luck involved but it’s the kind of luck you make yourself. You’ve probably never been taught how set goals…we typically don’t teach that.

Setting goals based on a dream you have for the future of your family is empowering and motivating. But it doesn’t last long if you don’t have a plan or a system in place to make small, gradual steps that keep you headed toward your goal.

An important step in achieving your goals and dreams is having a guide, someone to help keep you on course and moving forward. Think of Yoda and Luke Skywalker, or Haymitch and Katniss. Someone to teach you, guide you, chastise you when needed and cheer you when you meet your milestones.

It’s time to stop settling for a life you don’t want. It’s time to get un-stuck and move forward for your happiness and the future of your family.

To get started on your path, sign up for a No Obligation Discovery Call with me and let’s start to find your way out of being stuck.